Sometimes, it's hard to understand what's really
going on beneath the surface.
From the outside, your life might look perfectly fine. You're capable. You get things done. You might even be the person other people turn to when they need help.
But underneath all that, perhaps you're:
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holding yourself to impossible standards
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struggling to rest without feeling guilty
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overthinking conversations, decisions and relationships
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constantly anticipating other people's needs
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overwhelmed by emotions you don't quite know what to do with
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repeating painful patterns in your relationships
Services
Individual Therapy
A space to understand what's happening underneath the surface.
Therapy can be a place to slow down and explore the things that are difficult to untangle on your own.
We might work on:
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perfectionism and self-criticism
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burnout and emotional exhaustion
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anxiety and overwhelm, including OCD
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people-pleasing and over-responsibility
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attachment and relationship patterns
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trauma and difficult past experiences
You might also be feeling disconnected, stuck, unsure of what you need, or frustrated that you understand your patterns intellectually but can't seem to change them.
Couples Therapy
When you keep having the same conversation.
Drawing particularly on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment theory, we'll explore what happens between you when things become difficult.
Together, we might explore:
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recurring conflict and emotional disconnection
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difficulties with intimacy
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communication breakdown
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trust, betrayal, and resentment
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different needs for closeness and space
The aim isn't simply to communicate better. It's to understand what is happening underneath the conflict, recognise the cycle you're both caught in, and create new ways of reaching for and responding to one another.
How I work
I'm Melissa, a psychotherapist working with individuals, couples and therapists online across the UK.
I don't believe therapy is about fixing yourself or telling you to think differently. Instead, we'll explore what's happening beneath the surface, with compassion, curiosity and without judgement.
Together, we'll look at the patterns you've developed, what they might be trying to protect, and what might help you move towards a life that feels more like your own.
"I had already done a lot of CBT and understood my thoughts and behaviours intellectually, but I still felt stuck. I was tired of having my experiences constantly reframed or being encouraged to look at things differently. Working with Melissa helped me understand how my past had shaped the way I experience myself and the world around me. For the first time, I was able to have compassion for the younger parts of myself rather than judging them or trying to change them. That shift has made a profound difference to how I relate to myself today."
"Working with Melissa enabled us to understand why we just couldn't understand each other anymore. She helped us recognise our patterns, and supported us as we created a more secure relationship. It was really scary to be this vulnerable in front on someone, but she never once made us feel judged - she was just really in there with us, showing us a path so we could slowly find our way back to each other."
Testimonials
Ready to get started?
I offer a free 20-minute consultation so that we can talk about what's bringing you to therapy and whether working together feels like the right fit.
Introductory calls are held on Google Meet and can be either audio or video. Please make sure to add your availability to your message, so I can offer a slot that suits you.
I look forward to hearing from you!
